It seems like more and more I’m hearing about a family falling apart due to divorce. As I write, I know of at least 4 families/couples who are in the process of separation or divorce. It’s so sad, regardless of the circumstances.
Before my divorce in 2003, I was extremely judgmental about married couples who “decided to call it quits”…that’s exactly what I thought they were doing…quitting. I just knew that they hadn’t tried hard enough or that they weren’t as good as me…therefore, there was absolutely no reason or excuse for a divorce. What I went through from 2000 until 2003 changed my perspective forever. No one…and I mean NO ONE…has any clue what goes on behind closed doors, much less what doesn’t go on. There are SO many circumstances that we’re unaware of, and it’s so easy to pass judgment. Unless you’ve been in the shoes of someone going through a divorce situation, there’s no possible way you can fully understand or relate to their situation.
Over the past 6 years, I’ve been through a lot personally, but have also walked with several friends through this most difficult time. I’ve heard SO MANY stories that would absolutely blow your mind. Granted, there is the occasional marriage where one or the other spouse decides to quit. But, for the most part, marriages that die do so over a period of time and series of events. It’s never just one thing.
I’m no professional, legal or mental, but I have seen a lot and been through my share…so I thought I’d use this “room” to pass along some tips, advice, encouragement and whatever else I have seen help or work in different cases. Feel free to comment or add a question.
I probably should make an official disclaimer here: I’m not an attorney, CPA, psychologist or therapist. Be sure to seek professional advice on matters that could affect your life or the lives of your children. Above all, you MUST do what is in your best interest and in the best interest of your children. My intention is only to help from my own experience and through walking with others through theirs.
